What is a Womens’ Circle anyway?
Describing the experience of sitting in a Vividly Woman Circle is like attempting to capture the magic of a sunset in words to offer someone who can not see, or finding words to deliver the taste and texture of fine chocolate to the palette of someone who has never had such pleasure.
I am asked the question, “What is a Women’s Circle anyway?” a lot these days, and my first thought is, “Just come. Come experience it for yourself, because words have not yet been invented to do it justice.”
However, some people require more convincing than just that. So this post is for all of you!
A woman’s Circle is an ancient way women have gathered to work, create, visit, dance, pray, grieve, celebrate, and be in council and community. As far as history and herstory have record of and undoubtedly before then, Circles have served humanity.
It is only in recent times we have changed the format, and so we have suffered. When women view one another as competition and as a threat, we rob ourselves of the gift of sisterhood. Sacred Circle is one of the ways we heal that wound and see one another with new eyes and an open heart.
When I sit in Circle I can see into each woman’s eyes. I see her unique beauty, vulnerability, and her power.
As I hold the stone, I am invited to speak my truth. There is no hurry, I do not have to think ahead of time what it is I “should” say. I can ask myself, “what wants to be said now?” and wait for the words to come to me. Often I am surprised by what comes out of my mouth. There is no agenda or expectation.
I have relief knowing whatever I say is ok. There will be no feedback, no one offering solutions, or referrals. The Circle is safe, confidential, it is it’s own covenant. My authenticity has space to exist. I learn about my essential self as I listen to my own voice with curiosity. At times I pass the stone and honor the voice of my own silence. This is a place free from judgement, especially my own self judgement.
We are a mirror for one another. My sisters speak and I remember we are the same. I empathize with her, and so I have empathy for me. Sometimes I slip into judgement and arrogantly believe I know what’s best for her, what she should do, ha! I sense the tension and contraction in my body, I release this notion that I know best, and return to open loving presence. What a relief, it isn’t up to me to fix it! I learn to listen earnestly with my whole being. I stay curious and keep returning to a place of no judgment. This practice alone has made me a better mother, spouse, coach, facilitator and friend.
In Circle we invite wisdom to come to us and through us, and it does! Circle has become one of my greatest teachers. Circle says, “Come, show up, and be exactly who you are, exactly where you are in your life in this very moment. It is ok. Just be.”
I am holding Vividly Woman Circles in the Seattle area. If you would like to join us, we’d love to have you! Contact me, Kara@Sacredsassy.com to learn more.
Our Vividly Woman Leadership training is inviting women to step into their leadership. Holding space for women to gather and return to Circle is one of many aspects of feminine leadership we teach.
“The fundamentals of spirituality connect us rather than separate us. Women meeting in circles with a spiritual center are in a sacred space, are practicing and developing compassion when they listen, and are deepening themselves. The more circles there are, the easier others can form. At the same time, each circle adds to collective human consciousness. Each one is one more on the way toward the metaphoric
millionth circle and the end of patriarchy”. ~ Dr Jean Shinoda Bolen.