Self Love Sweet Love

The number one issue facing women today is chronic and destructive lack of self love. It’s a sad reality that living with as much opportunity, wealth, rights and freedoms as we as women do in this part of the world, that we still inflict punishment on ourselves in the form of self hate, self judgment and lack of self worth that is almost as destructive as what we see in misogynist societies.

What the world needs now, is for women to be in love sweet love (with ourselves). It’s one of the only things that there’s just too little of!

The paradigm shift slowly heading our way, where the values and blessings of the divine feminine are heralded and celebrated, cannot come about until a critical mass of women can honestly say, I love ME, and mean it. This isn’t something we can feign. That won’t cut it. And I know that all things have their time, but I have to confess I’m a little impatient for this one. Particularly because I now know just how juicy it is. That isn’t to say that I don’t have my ups and downs, moments and hours when I resort to my issues of shame and self blame. I still know those places intimately, however I am way more the witness, versus the victim to those corrosive tendencies.

So here are a few tips I’ve learned and discovered over my years as a tumultuously juicy woman with moods and emotions that sometime seem like they could fuel a jet plane.

Tip #1 Give yourself sensual gifts. Choose things that won’t induce guilt, like rich desserts or expensive ticket items. Instead, here are some ideas: Take a warm bubble bath, massage yourself with fragrant lotion, cuddle up naked with a soft throw. Please add to the list at the Vividly Woman Facebook group! We want more juicy ideas for being sensually loving to ourselves.

Tip #2 Spend time in nature seeing yourself in the mirror.Nature is so beautiful and she is a reflection of you. Spend lots of time in her loving embrace and remember to ground in your oneness.

Tip# 3 Move your body. Dance every day for at least 15 minutes. You can do it on your own, or join a global circle of sisters who are dancing together virtually. Dance Your Power Daily Dance-A-Thon

Tip# 4 Identify and prioritize meaning in your life. Move out of victim and into the power of self love by choosing to do things that have genuine meaning, and choosing to find and stay conscious of meaning in all the things you do.

Tip#5 Express love to yourself. Make it a frequent daily habit to tell yourself, “Leela, (your name) I love you”. Say it a loud, sing it in the shower, write it in the sand, write it on a card and mail it to yourself, send an email to yourself.

Self love isn’t a science, it’s a creative practice that requires devotion. Aren’t YOU worth devoting yourself to?

Leela Francis is the founder of Vividly Woman. An embodiment Expert, facilitator and coach, she inspires the values of the divine feminine in work and in play.



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  1. Randi


    12:28 AM

    Beautifully said Leela. Through my work with Vividly Woman, sitting and dancing in circle over and over again, and embodying my true goddess I have fallen in love with myself all over again. The playful little girl has returned with a sensual twist.

  2. Evolve already


    4:59 AM

    Thank you Leela! This is our life's greatest work. Taking time with ourselves, getting to know, understand, listen, and love the way we would any important person in our lives. No one can do this for us.

  3. savetheworld504


    6:06 PM

    Thank you. #4 is especially important. I'm stuck back in "victim role" again and it's bringing me down- too far down. Just found this site and Vividly Woman on Facebook today. Another woman posted about being in a wheelchair but still finding the opportunities to dance. I have two legs that work and I don't dance. I will get myself back. Just an emotional weekend with migraines, neck and back pain. TY again. -Jennifer

  4. Kaaren


    5:27 PM

    I love #5. How many times do I say negative things to myself, but NEVER say, "Kaaren, I love you." Wow. What a difference that would make. Just makes me feel good to write it.


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