Hallelujah Leela Francis…for naming one of the biggest issues for women, indeed! And for creating a space to heal the great divide in us!!! It’s like a chain reaction of self-defeat and discouragement–and it’s hard to know what comes first…being devalued that leads to lack of self-love, or lack of self-love that leads to being devalued–but it doesn’t matter because Embody Self Love Intensive helped me to get back on the path after I had found myself soooo far off it!
My biggest melt/nurture-through (feminine version of breakthrough) at Embody Self Love Intensive was realizing that I needed to be in GREAT physical pain before I would create the boundary for myself on being overworked and undervalued. I KNEW IT cognitively, but it wasn’t until I EMBODIED it through dancing (actually in having to dance very quietly and small for once instead of passionately energetic) that I got it! I saw how much I allowed my ego and my longstanding warrior-like energy to dominate everything–as if that was the only way of being that gave me worth!
I needed to find the care and nurturance of myself–especially when I was in PAIN–versus catering to the demands of others (even though I’d trained them to expect me to do all the work!), ignoring my pain, and ignoring my SELF. Hmmmm….how disconnected was that? PRAY FOR A SIGN EVEN YOU CAN RECOGNIZE, DIANE!
And rather than use a stick to beat myself up with for “not doing it right” and not being MORE self-aware than this….instead I learned to welcome this long-neglected, injured side of myself AND to confront the neglectful torpedoes-be-damned attitude of my being with true compassion and deep understanding.
Embody Self Love Intensive IS learning at the cellular level! I loved what I learned & embodied there! Thank you Leela for your wisdom! Thanks to all the women there who helped me melt-through and get on the path to more self-love. Still a work in progress and that’s okay ’cause I am still on the path!!!
Diane Anderson RCC, MA, is a counsellor in private practice in Vancouver, BC and a International Vividly Woman Co-Facilitator.